The Sit Up

11/10/2011 The Anti-Austen 4 Comments

Dear Anti-Austens,

I'm dating this guy, we've been dating for a good long while now, and things are really serious with us. I see myself marrying him. And so this is great and all! But now see, we don't go to the same school, so we're not exactly glued at the hip. We only live 20 minutes from each other, so it's hardly long distance, but we don't spend every waking moment together, seeing how we attend different Universities. And I don't exactly run around shouting to the world that I'm happily in love! It seems like a rude thing to do. "Hey how are you?" "Better than you! I've got a boyfriend!" You see what I mean?

Well, here's what happened. I was at a crowded FHE the other night.

A man approaches. Him: "Hey, you seem like a nice girl. I know a nice guy. I don't know if you do set-ups or not?"Me: "Sit ups? I dunno... I don't really work out a ton I guess, I'm more into pilates, though I did try running this week... wasn't super awesome..."Him: "Not sit ups, SET UPS!"Me: "Sit ups?"Him: "Set ups."(At this point I realized I was never going to understand what he was saying, so I fell on the default answer... smile and nod...)Me: "Ohhh... um yeah sure! Mmhmm...... how about this FHE, am I right?"Him: "Cool. So I'm just going to have my friend call you then. I think you'd have fun together."Now I realized what he'd been saying, but he'd run off.

I can't make this stuff up. This is a freak accident conversation.

I forgot all about it. I saw this fellow at church this week, and he mentioned nothing of it, so I figured he'd forgotten it too. Until today when he let me know he passed on my number to his friend. I said that was fine, I figured maybe his friend wouldn't call, and it just felt like the wrong time to say "Oh by the way, I'm happily dating Mr. Amazing. You should probably tell your friend that." The number was passed. The deed was done. And I had no idea what to do. Two seconds later his friend called and asked me on a date. But I saw this coming, so I didn't answer the phone, I just let it go to voice mail.

I'm sure he's a nice guy. I guess I just don't know how to tell him that I'm seeing someone. I've been trying to avoid awkward situations, but I've just awkwarded myself into a giant misunderstanding. And I don't know how to fix it.

Is it cool for me just to avoid any calls from "Sit Up Guy" as I saved him in my phone? Is it cool for me to avoid the guy in my ward who tried to get me to do a sit up? Or do I just fess up and let them both know that I'm dating someone, and there's been a misunderstanding.

Please, bestow on me some advice, because I'm sorely frustrated.

With love,
Not Much Into Sit Ups

Dear Not Much Into Sit Ups,

Bahahahahahahaha. Brilliant.

Now that I've got that out of my system, the solution is easy. Call the guy from your ward and explain the situation. I'm sure he will laugh and contact his friend...or he will not laugh, but still call his friend. Either way, this poor boy will stop calling you to ask you out.

I also want to add that I'm glad you found Mr. Amazing, you truly are lucky. I also feel like I need to tell you that one should never respond to "how are you" by saying "Better than you! I've got a boyfriend!" I imagine conflict would arise.

Best of luck in this most hilarious predicament

-The Blue Stocking

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Mrs. Weston said...

Awkwardness. I love it.

So, confession...I am married and I love reading this dating blog. And I have to say, I feel the same when someone single asks me, "so, how's married life going?" I think it was President Monson who said love should be shouted from the rooftops! But it seems so insensitive to reply with how I am so happily in love with my best friend and also love no longer living with 5 roommates, while my dear friend (and possible old roommate) is still playing the dating game. I am reminded of Emma Woodhouse, who knew that "great must be the difference between a Mrs. Weston, only half a mile from them, and a Miss Taylor in the house," except I am from the perspective of Mrs. Weston. It's just not the same talking with my single friends anymore after you get married. Perhaps this is why I love reading this blog so much - because I have friends who are going through the same things and this way I have stories to share when we get together and talk about life. :)

Anonymous said...

It was Elder Holland I believe, but I remember that talk well.

Sarah said...

By all means shout out your all your married friends. Us singles get quite annoyed with all that ruckus.

True Blue Dating Coach said...

Hello Not Much Into Sit Ups,

That's so funny! Just call the friend back directly (the one who is being set up) and tell him that his friend and you got your wires crossed when talking and that you are in a relationship right now. You can laugh together about the whole thing and go on happily with your lives. After that you can happily ignore him if he's ignorant enough to call you back.