The Bait Determines the Catch

4/09/2012 The Blue Stocking 6 Comments

This week Bingley and I texted off and on, but since we were both going home for Easter, we didn’t get to hang out. At this point I just realized that he is a busy guy who likes moving slow….really really slow. And a part of me is hoping that once summer hits, things will speed up and get better. HOPEFULLY.

On Sunday I went early to ward prayer and this time it was like it used to be back in January and February. Let me explain. We were with each other the whole time, and we ended up staying and talking, just the two of us. We even planned some fun future dates. Not too shabby if I do say so myself.

I just hope we can keep this up.

Now onto something I’ve been thinking about for a while now. I have a lot of girl friends that don’t know how to get a guy to like them or ask them out. Each of these girls, at one point or another, feels like they have to indulge in some silly dating game in order to get him to notice them. This is what I think…

The bait determines the catch.

If you bait a guy using lies and trickery, you’re only going to get caught in a tricky situation swimming in those lies.

If you bait a guy using your body, you’re going to catch something quite slimy.

If you bait a guy by becoming someone you’re not, you’re going to end up with someone who will never know you.

Ultimately, if you want a guy who likes you for who you are, then you need to be you when you get him.

Does that make sense?

Leave the games up to the romantic comedies, and just go talk to him. It’s simple and it will probably keep things from getting o so messy.

C'est la vie,

The Blue Stocking

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Kara said...

"If you bait a guy using your body, you’re going to catch something quite slimy"


I've never heard this saying before, but I just love it. Good luck with you and Bingley!

Great advice! So true!

Anonymous said...

I completely agree with that advice. Which is why I feel uneasy whenever someone says all you have to do is flirt with someone. To me, flirting is just being yourself towards someone. It doesn't necessarily include the twinkle eyes or the touch of the elbow, but it that's what you want to do (and it's appropriate) then do it, because that's you.

Heidi said...

"If you bait a guy using your body, you’re going to catch something quite slimy."
I suppose this is why I always get a tad offended when a guy tells me I'm hot or sexy, before getting to know me. Most people tell me I should just be flattered by that (and maybe I should), but for me it makes me uncomfortable, because it makes me feel like they are just looking at my body, and because it makes me wonder HOW they are looking at my body, if you know what I mean.

Don't forget about the "Bait & Switch"

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