The Return of the James

1/07/2015 The Blue Stocking 3 Comments

I mentioned that James had reached out to end our awkwardness. I believe his words were “I know you said you didn’t want to talk, but I want to dissipate the awkwardness.” Can I just say I DID NOT tell him I didn’t want him to talk to me. That makes me sounds like the worst human ever. Which, I’m not. I think.

For most of October and November, James and I were texting all day every day. I knew at some point he would ask me out, and I have to admit I was curious to see how he would go about it. Before Thanksgiving he asked if I felt comfortable “hanging out” with him sometime.

Can I just say I HATE the term hanging out. It makes me want to punch someone. Preferably the boy who uttered it. Just call it a date and kiss me. Also I don’t mean this as a personal affront to James. He’s probably the bravest guy I’ve dated. No other guy would risk a third rejection for another date with this weirdo.  

We decided to go out for dessert since we both agreed that dessert made up half our day-dreams at work.  We took our dessert on the road and drove to a nearby park where we wandered and talked for hours.

Pros of James: He’s fun to talk to and to look at.
Cons of James: He refuses to talk about himself. Refuses.

When asked, “hey why don’t you tell me about (insert any question about his life)” He replies “it’s complicated” and changes the subject.

Ok Avril Lavigne, I’ve had it up to here with you. You guys should know I have my left hand raised really high while my right hand types this.

While I continued to push for simple facts like “what are you doing when you graduate,” he said he didn’t want to tell me anything because he didn’t trust me. Excuse me? What information could he possibly be retaining that results in complete avoidance? I at least had him clarify that being an escort was not a possible graduation plan, but that’s as far as I got.

Guys I don’t even know where he lives because “it’s complicate.

Whatever romantic novels say, mysterious guys are the absolute worst. And yet I’m so intrigued… dagnabit.

-The Bluestocking

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Sarah said...

This guy sounds soooooo sketchy. I'm not saying he killed anyone or anything...but with the way he acts, there's a distinct possibility. No, really though, you don't want to date anyone who A) doesn't trust you and B) is secretive. Not unless you want to ride the roller coaster of emotional abuse. Run. Away.

The Bluestocking said...

HA! Sarah, one of the first things I said to my friends after the date was a joke about how he's probably killed someone. I mean, I don't actually believe that, but his mysterious ways makes one wonder about what he has and hasn't done...

Also, you make most excellent points, but this was back in November and I was trying to make things work and not be as judgy as I usually am. And now there's a lot to catch you guys up on.


Anonymous said...

maybe he is under cover for the government?