tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8936537874847344814.post9051730634232819465..comments2024-01-30T01:52:44.135-07:00Comments on The Anti-Austen: No man is offended by another man's admiration of the woman he loves; it is the woman only who can make it a torment.The Anti-Austenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11970646614276309244noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8936537874847344814.post-65464562518270397462017-05-02T20:25:48.779-06:002017-05-02T20:25:48.779-06:00If you'd like an alternative to casually flirt...If you'd like an alternative to casually flirting with girls and trying to find out the right thing to do...<br /><br />If you would prefer to have women chase YOU, instead of spending your nights prowling around in filthy pubs and night clubs...<br /><br />Then I urge you to view this eye-opening video to find out a strong secret that can literally get you your personal harem of sexy women just 24 hours from now: <br /><br /><b><a href="http://dating.syntaxlinks.com/r/FacebookSeductionSystem" rel="nofollow">FACEBOOK SEDUCTION SYSTEM</a></b>!!!Bloggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07287821785570247118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8936537874847344814.post-42395546513776329002011-12-21T11:10:35.177-07:002011-12-21T11:10:35.177-07:00http://www.wtfisupwithmylovelife.com/glossary/what...http://www.wtfisupwithmylovelife.com/glossary/what-is-the-gaggle/<br />This is a system I quite like. Each guy in your "frenzy" probably fills a similar role as the ones in the gaggle.Annienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8936537874847344814.post-56257823751058528912011-12-20T01:02:02.483-07:002011-12-20T01:02:02.483-07:00Coquette,
This is too funny. About a month ago I w...Coquette,<br />This is too funny. About a month ago I was ready to write to you (and the other lovely Anti-Austen ladies) because I had found myself in a similar situation. Only here, a crush and friend of 8+ years takes the place of Perry Mason, and my best friend and roommate of 2 years takes the place of the dear friend.<br /><br />I was so conflicted, and seeing them together always elicited a twist of the knife that I felt sticking out of my back. But, perhaps because I'm the type to lie down in the face of conflict rather than pressing my case, I ended up facilitating this relationship: going on initial double dates, acting as a wingman to both parties, dispensing advice and listening to stories. It hurt for a long time. But it did get better. And as a result, I've become a very close friend with my Perry Mason figure, something that I never was able to finagle in my previous 14 years of friendship with him, and I've realized this is, in most every way, much better than what would have occurred had my friend not fallen for him, and had I continued to chase him myself.<br /><br />I recognize that this is a hard place to be, and that our situations are not exactly the same, but do think about how it may have positive impacts down the road. <br /><br />Good luck.Hermana Ferrinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17429307801455243205noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8936537874847344814.post-45762957714190512722011-12-16T01:23:13.174-07:002011-12-16T01:23:13.174-07:00Pray about it. Seriously. It might see weird to pr...Pray about it. Seriously. It might see weird to pray about, basically, "Is it okay to mess up my friend's relationship?", but as has been mentioned in previous comments, you don't know what will happen. You could end up with the guy and not the girl. You could lose both of them. You don't know. But Heavenly Father DOES know what will make you happiest in the end, and that's never a bad thing to find out.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8936537874847344814.post-33205822332838351472011-12-15T17:10:03.547-07:002011-12-15T17:10:03.547-07:00Coquette, I love you! You're so funny. And w...Coquette, I love you! You're so funny. And why isn't Colonel Paisley in the cycling five? I do think you two would be a lot of fun. You know, since I know both of you so well from your writings! <br /><br />Back to the topic: Surely your friend knows you have a thing for him?Anonynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8936537874847344814.post-10982080141709082462011-12-15T14:38:36.815-07:002011-12-15T14:38:36.815-07:00The problem with this situation is that you could ...The problem with this situation is that you could end up with neither. I am all about the scheming, if it is for the right purposes. If you go about it the wrong way, however, you could find yourself eating at Zupas all alone with neither girl nor boy friend to eat the chocolate covered strawberries with. All I'm saying, is to be careful. Be incredibly sneaky, or completely honest. Either one works, but if you find yourself stuck in somewhere in the middle of the two, you might as well be trying to take a test in the JSB. You'll never be able to get out without upsetting a good handful of people. Do what your conscious can sleep well with. Good luck.The Gardenerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03162071832028184817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8936537874847344814.post-2185044132534886592011-12-15T13:44:56.526-07:002011-12-15T13:44:56.526-07:00Dear Coquette,
Yes your relationship is important ...Dear Coquette,<br />Yes your relationship is important with your friend, but in 20 years you could be married to this boy and not even know the name of this girl. Perspective! I'm not saying do anything nasty, but be willing to fight for something you value. If this boy is worth is throw your hat in the ring :)Lounoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8936537874847344814.post-19077633400810513922011-12-15T12:07:48.730-07:002011-12-15T12:07:48.730-07:00Dear Coquette,
This is indeed a very precarious s...Dear Coquette, <br />This is indeed a very precarious situation. In fact, I find myself in a similar situation-but in the place of the dear friend. Just take it from me, that this is a very difficult experience. Remember that your friendship is more important than the boy. He may stick around or he may leave entirely, but your relationship with your dear friend is more important than who ends up dating/marrying him. It may take lots of heartache, tears, and anger on both ends, but be VERY open with your dear friend. COMMUNICATE. This is soooo important as I've found out. Good luck! I love reading your stories and wish you the best!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8936537874847344814.post-71146766536602258132011-12-15T08:38:02.651-07:002011-12-15T08:38:02.651-07:00Argh! As much as you are The Coquette, you're...Argh! As much as you are The Coquette, you're not! You are a true, dear friend. Unfortunately. Well. More blog fodder for us! I'm definitely looking forward to the details on each of the five. And by the by, it is beyond me how this blog doesn't have a larger following. I think it's the best-kept secret of BYU! Maybe it doesn't have a larger following because we all keep it a secret? Happy Thursday! (Oh! Might any of the five have place in your holiday plans?)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8936537874847344814.post-29679275790755324552011-12-15T00:06:31.523-07:002011-12-15T00:06:31.523-07:00I'm glad I'm not the only one who has a &q...I'm glad I'm not the only one who has a "frenzy of five". It's nice to have something to fall back on. But yeah, it's always harder to have a crush fall for a friend than to have them like someone you don't know. "I hate her; I'll think of a reason later," as a funny country song says... but it doesn't quite work when they're your friend.Elisabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00081317641105983340noreply@blogger.com