tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8936537874847344814.post8057782069031516642..comments2024-01-30T01:52:44.135-07:00Comments on The Anti-Austen: ClosureThe Anti-Austenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11970646614276309244noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8936537874847344814.post-42816399197506293342011-08-19T19:56:52.136-06:002011-08-19T19:56:52.136-06:00Hey, I know how it goes! I broke up with my Wickha...Hey, I know how it goes! I broke up with my Wickham last year. I don't have anymore romantic feelings for him, but I've always wished that we had had closure. I did all the normal things- tried not to think of him, wrote him a letter (which I didn't send, ftr), and finally I decided to invite him to lunch. I thought it was pretty gutsy- but i'm leaving on a mission soon, and I didn't want to have that lingering feeling of wishing I'd finally closed that door. I was SO nervous the day of the lunch! But it couldn't have been a better thing to do. Yes, like your experience, there was flirting, it was hard, and there was talking. Most of the time we just talked about things that didn't really matter, and caught up on each other's lives. At the end I felt like I could finally forgive him and move on. It's such a good feeling. <br /><br />So here's to another novelcomment, and here's to closure. Here's to peace of mind!Anne (my favorite Jane Austen character)noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8936537874847344814.post-28025126680570542042011-08-08T18:57:26.210-06:002011-08-08T18:57:26.210-06:00I wrote a long, handwritten tiny-print four-page l...I wrote a long, handwritten tiny-print four-page letter to the girl I adored my freshman year. I liked her; she liked my roommate; he liked Ultimate Frisbee. There was always some tension between us [some of it romantic, haha]. But I told her everything, and I feel completely happy about the entire situation. Spring term hit, and she started dating someone, then I left on my mission. She's been married for 3.5 years now, and has two children. I'm happy for her and I have closure.<br />Letter writing really is helpful.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8936537874847344814.post-7404102397169194172011-08-08T18:17:36.030-06:002011-08-08T18:17:36.030-06:00As I started reading through your post, I thought ...As I started reading through your post, I thought that my life was lamentably lacking in closure, then I remembered the dinner I had with my own Wickham. He wasn't really a Wickham, not nearly so dastardly, just a tad clueless. But that's nothing new when it comes to guys. <br />It was a good dinner. I got the closure I needed, I reached out of my comfort zone and talked to him after feeling like he stomped on my heart. He got to feel like he hadn't broken me, which turned out to be good for both of us. Closure is good, whether from a dinner, a letter, or a lot of time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8936537874847344814.post-45099922746759910212011-08-08T16:55:09.522-06:002011-08-08T16:55:09.522-06:00Ya sometimes just being able to get it all out hel...Ya sometimes just being able to get it all out helps, even if it is only a piece of paper listening.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8936537874847344814.post-67209316617828043712011-08-08T10:24:35.492-06:002011-08-08T10:24:35.492-06:00Writing a letter to my ex is also what helped ME g...Writing a letter to my ex is also what helped ME gain a sense of closure. He'll never read it, of course (largely because it's terribly cheesy since I may or may not have quoted a Taylor Swift song), but it helped me come to terms with things.Kellihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13165046039220428071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8936537874847344814.post-74617534664010145812011-08-08T08:53:21.685-06:002011-08-08T08:53:21.685-06:00Here, here!Here, here!Kelly Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05430795619058961512noreply@blogger.com