tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8936537874847344814.post6493376215292382133..comments2024-01-30T01:52:44.135-07:00Comments on The Anti-Austen: Ex-Lover LettersThe Anti-Austenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11970646614276309244noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8936537874847344814.post-13301000533911944132012-09-05T22:27:24.250-06:002012-09-05T22:27:24.250-06:00Keep both the letters and journals! Old love lette...Keep both the letters and journals! Old love letters remind us that those boys who broke our hearts at one time were willing to pour out their own, also that we were willing to let them into our hidden heart. Even though past guys were capable of flirting, complimenting, and admiring they weren't the keeping kind. Journals remind us of the process: infatuation, secret online wedding dress shopping, and heartbreak. To have positive growth from past relationships, I've needed to recognize my mistakes that were realized from rereading my journal.Letters remind me that many men have more than I initially perceive and in contrast to my dating-bittered-self I once trusted men and was hopeful. My Juliet-esque journals remind me to think twice before I fall head over heels.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8936537874847344814.post-50135242154045731212012-09-04T18:04:58.763-06:002012-09-04T18:04:58.763-06:00Burn them. Burn them, burn them, burn them.
I ju...Burn them. Burn them, burn them, burn them. <br /><br />I just did the same thing three months ago. Moving, found old letters, keep old letters? I felt guilty, especially because a bunch of them were detailed letters from his mission. But I didn't want to haul them around all my life, and I didn't really need to read them again. And watching things burn is extremely cathartic. And freaking fun.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8936537874847344814.post-44687587057585432732012-08-31T12:05:01.479-06:002012-08-31T12:05:01.479-06:00I have a hard time with this one. Perhaps because ...I have a hard time with this one. Perhaps because I am much too sentimental. I still have all my letters from...everyone, and I love having them. It's not as though I pull them out to get a high when I'm feeling blue, but I keep them because I view them as part of my personal history. I would like my children to know that side of my life. I don't feel like it's something that needs to be hidden, and I don't plan on burning them soon. However, if (?!) when I get married my husband feels strongly about it, I will have a burning party with him. But who is to say what is wrong or right in this case? It's a very personal thing. The Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18264244003528518192noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8936537874847344814.post-68736917487011645812012-08-31T11:33:01.223-06:002012-08-31T11:33:01.223-06:00Agree with Haley 100%. While some days I wish I c...Agree with Haley 100%. While some days I wish I could read them again, I am so grateful I don't have them! I miss my exes to the point of painful sometimes, but then I am grateful I am not with them because it was for the best. I've had experiences I would never give back. I do keep my journals and am not ripping out or burning those pages. My story for my posterity may be full of surprises, but I want them to understand who I was, what I felt, what I experienced, and how I got to where I am, the person they will know. But I would never want them to think I was dwelling on an old ex when times with my husband were tough. That's just awful! it is like she was never happy or satisfied with her husband. Poor guy! This is why they say "When you break up, BREAK UP!"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8936537874847344814.post-59165437403880957082012-08-30T18:27:54.675-06:002012-08-30T18:27:54.675-06:00Don't keep the notes! Keep your journal though...Don't keep the notes! Keep your journal though. That is awful that that lady read those old letters from old boyfriends when she was married! Haley Dennishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18442590000609703172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8936537874847344814.post-63054093865665376922012-08-30T18:10:18.606-06:002012-08-30T18:10:18.606-06:00I usually go Gilmore Girl style and make a little ...I usually go Gilmore Girl style and make a little box that I hide somewhere I never see. If I'm feeling nostalgic, I can pull them out. I figure at some point they'll be very funny to me, if not, my children. :DAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com